😤 Repressed emotions in childhood significantly affect the quality of life in adulthood and plays an important role in many psychiatric disorders as well as leading to social estrangement
❄️ For example: In Triva #4 we mentioned W.Churchill’s lonely childhood and how a lack of love directly influenced his need for power. His mother, Lady Randolph Churchill, would often not reply to him when he was away in boarding school, and was notoriously cold towards him. His emotional detachment in certain situations as well as a desire for acceptance throughout his life are no doubt one of the main primal driving forces which, along with his aristocratic background and long-term engagement in high-profile society, catapulted him into positions of power. 🐕🦺 While his rise to power and role in handling WWII might be seen as a positive byproduct of this suffering, on the other hand it also arguably triggered his bipolar disorder which he referred as his „Black dog“.
🤷♀️ What other influential figures of today can you think of whose complex childhood may have catapulted them into power, but not at the cost of considerable mental anguish to themselves and others?
⛓️💥The quality of attachement between a child and an attachement figure (usually mother, but this model is of course fluid) in the first 2 years of the child´s life is crucial for the overall quality of relationships in adulthood. The mother should always be near (in the psychological and physical sense) when the child needs her or when it is in a stressful situation.
‼️The key factors for developing a healthy personality are: a level of reliance on the mother and how the attachement figure is consistent in her behaviour. The other important factors are the proximity in the relationship, maintenance of the relationship with the child, balancing of separation distress, and a secure base (home).
🪢 An insecure bond in childhood directly determines behaviour in adulthood.
In psychotherapy these types of clients suffer with problems like: fear of rejection and abandonment, desire for closeness, insecurity in relationships, also excessive striving for independence, low level of investment into relationships, and not sharing emotions.
💔 Are repressed emotions in your childhood something which you believe influences your realtionships? I am happy to help with that
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